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If you felt that way then you should of refused the extra time that was given to you. So did you refuse?
Yes I didnât take the extra time. Same as I donât tick the disabled box for guaranteed interviews. I personally donât find these things to be ethical.
I think our definitions of what is ethical are rather different.
Thankfully, the law favours my view more than yours.
Ethical is somewhat subjective, thatâs why I said that personally I donât find it ethical. But whatâs ethical differs between person and culture, so I definitely accept that other people find it acceptable as well.
The way it was worded it looked like you took the time. Do me a favour? The next time just give me your extra time if itâs offered to you.
Worth noting that those boxes are not about âguaranteed interviewsâ theyâre about quality monitoring, the idea is to track how many applicants from marginalised backgrounds apply and then to compare that to the number who are successful etc, itâs for monitoring.
A concise if likely wrong glossary of the queer community acronyms:
Feel free to suggest correctionsâŠ
- LGB/GLB is where it started out AFAIK so that pretty much always means lesbian, gay and bisexual.
- T recognises trans people which have long been an ignored part of this community in-spite of effectively being responsible for kickstarting the civil rights movement at stonewall. Sometimes a second T refers to transsexual.
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Q is
- Queer, among other things nods towards for example non-binary people whoâs sexual orientation isnât easily defined as gay or straight as those are about same-sex/gender where as queer acknowledges this doesnât really apply to non-binary people
- Questioning, this is about allowing people to explore their identity without picking labels that might be harmful, i.e. the stereotype that bisexual men are just gay men who havenât figure out theyâre gay yet.
- I is for intersex, people whoâs biological sex is different due to a medical condition.
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P is for pansexual, for some people this is the same as bisexuality, but most recognise that pansexuality is attraction to all genders, where as bisexuality is attraction to either/or.
Sometimes P can refer to poly relationships or possibly marriages. -
A is:
- Asexual, people who do not have sexual feelings towards anyone
- Aromantic, people who do not have romantic feelings towards anyone
- Agender, similar to non-binary
- Androgynous, people who appear both male and female.
- Allies, non-LGBTQ+ people who actively support LGBTQ+ people by standing up for their needs and respecting them.
- + is used as an encapsulation for other sexual, romantic and gender identities to keep the acronym short without excluding others.
Some less frequent variants include:
- 2 relates to two spirit in North American indigenous communities.
- K refers to kink.
- C refers to curious, similar to questioning.
- F refers to friend and family, this is similar to allies but likely refers either to organisations like PFLAG (families of LGBTQ+ people), or LGBTQ+ individuals with families.
- D refers to demisexual, someone who requires strong emotional connection before forming sexual desires.
- GN refers to gender non-conforming, similar to androgynous.
- GG refers to gender fluid, similar to non-binary
- NB refers to non-binary, people whoâs gender identity is somewhere between male and female and may or may not slide between the two as an expression of their current self.
Well that really is an eye opener. Every day is a school day!
Thanks a lot now I know what I didnât know 5 minutes before which is a great feeling.
Jesus!
Youâre certain to offend someone if youâve got to remember all that
Best off sticking with the classic âeveryone welcomeâ line
Fun fact, you donât have to remember any of that and no one will be offended if you are trying.
The âeveryoneâs welcomeâ line presumes everyone has the same experiences and abilities as everyone else and thatâs not true. So then when we say things like that weâre presuming we donât need to do anything to make marginalised people more welcome.
Why would you immediately go on the defensive and presume that? It says it on the tin. Everyone whatever race, gender, nationality etc can come. The list would be endless if I had to include every variant.
Also, what needs to be done differently to accommodate all those people on your list? I understand disabled people might need different things highlighting to them but what do different genders need?
Not having a go, just generally want to know so I can learn and understand it better
Honestly few people would be offended; not unless you were trying to be offensive.
This is what is so often peddled by certain people in the media⊠that anything vaguely complex to them must mean that everyone on those lists are walking around being offended by everything and everyone.
In reality, weâre getting a coffee from Pret, going to work and paying overpriced rent like the rest of you. I donât have time to be offended by someone calling me âQueerâ over âGayâ or the likes.
Oh yeah I get you with that, donât worry Iâm not that narrow minded
It was just the need for genders to be mentioned when promoting an event, otherwise those people donât feel welcome? Or am I misunderstanding?
Sometimes itâs a catalyst needed to ensure in future it might not be needed. If enough under represented minorities see that people âlike themâ attend and are welcome then more may come forward in the future.
For example, the BBC have a policy (I believe) for a woman on every panel show now. Over time this shows other women that they can go on these sort of shows, with the aim that in a few yearâs time it wonât be a required policy because it just happens.
Ahh ok, that makes sense. Thank you
Apologies for the stupid question too
Not a stupid question in the slightest. And to be honest thatâs just my understanding - companies might have their own reasons.
Great post, I too love the pride app icon and use it all the time.
Sad to see that some choose to hijack this thread to be deliberately contrary to the intention and tone of the original post, though. Some people just want to feel like their own opinion is worth more than that of others, and they are usually the ones who call for âstraight prideâ because they completely miss the whole point!
To the people worrying about LGBTQI+ labels, please be assured that weâre not on the defensive looking for people who get it wrong! Itâs ok if you donât understand it, but itâs the fact that youâre trying and coming from a place of good intention that makes the difference.
I agree, Iâm always happy to receive questions about pretty much anything. Every day is a chance to learn something and open your eyes a little more to the world and the people in it.